Be Prepared to face people and accept as they are:
I have always met variety of people since my childhood times. I found consolidating all the characters and arriving at a judgement on who is the good person, is not only a difficult task but one that is unaccomplishable. Yes, be prepared to accept people as they are is the one solution and mantra for a healthy mind and thought, else i swear, surviving in this feign (pretense) world is going to be very difficult.
When I say any problem that I have faced, I really do not understand why people at the very first instance say, you have mistaken things/taken it in a very personal sense. Understand, when one feels hurt, it means, some one has meant it in person and that is why they come to friends/relatives seeking solace. It doesn't mean that the abreact (act of discharging hurt emotions/bad thoughts/tensions by verbalization) should be completely in favour of the friend and console a friend by blaming her opponent. It can be in such a way that we express that there are variety of people in this world and we cannot go ahead and correct each and every one's character. The only assuage would be to help him/her overcome and shed their sensitiveness and admonish (cautionary advice) them to accept people as they are!!!
Huf, that was just a bit i thought that i myself should inculcate when my dear and near ones come to me.
Deceptiveness:
The next is it surely needs lot of time and potential to understand one's way of behaviour towards us. All those who bear smiles when they encounter us are not always good. Remember, smiles at first instance is surely going to be deceptive. Yes, i have seen people both in my academics and professional life who speak very cordial and smile face to face, but all that is behind is only grudge and rancor. Ever since my schoolhood and my college days, had i felt uncomfortable with any one i just use to refrain myself from having even the most simple eye contact. Folks, i beleive this is one best justification we can do to ourselves and the depth of loyalty one can show to humanity. Yes, when we do not like or feel a discomfort with a person, it is more than 1000 percent better to quash (put down by force/declare invalid) your relationship but never have envy in heart and friendship in smiles and words. You are betraying both the person involved and yourself. Deluding to others is as good as befooling ourself ultimately.
Experience Speaks:
Out of various other instances, i only found, the equation holds good and balanced only when you give your full 100 percent and receive 0 zero percent in reciprocation. Yes, no where both in profession and personal life expect people to reciprocate anything, be it as simple as a birthday wish to as important as love, care and consideration. Expect a person to say "I am Fine" when asked "How are you?" is practicality. But when you expect a person to respond "I am fine, How are you Dear??" then it is sheer madness. For the second instance mentioned here, I feel it is a genuine expectation from one who is loyal to any relationship that he/she holds but in today's crazy world, people call you lunatic for such genuine expectations you hold. Yes, the mantra to survive in this tomfoolery world is "Don't Ever Expect but Give your 100% to anyone and in anything you do".
And, ah, yes so ultimately, there are lots more to come, but i bid adieu here to this post as it is hightime and my mind says, i just have 6 hours of clock to cross for my next day routine at office to begin. Again time restrains on all that we do!!! Ciao!!!
Ignited Minds Indians!!!
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